Mindset
The emotional side of starting to use a mobility aid
Almost everyone resists at first. Almost everyone, a few months later, says they wish they'd started sooner.
By David Ellison
Senior mobility editor · Updated
It's normal to hate it at first
A walker or wheelchair can feel like a public announcement that you're getting old or sick. Feeling embarrassed, angry or sad about it is normal and doesn't mean you're handling it badly. It's a real loss, and it's fine to name it.
What changes people's minds
In our conversations with users, the turning point is rarely an argument. It's a specific day: making it through the whole wedding, walking the farmers' market again, keeping up with a grandchild. The equipment stops being about limits and starts being about what you got back.
Things that help in the first months
- Choose equipment you like the look of — color and design matter more than people admit.
- Pick one outing you've been avoiding and plan it with the new aid.
- Talk to someone who's been using the same equipment for a year.
- Notice what you did this week that you couldn't do last month.
- Tell family what kind of help you want, and what you don't.
Handling other people
Strangers will occasionally stare, grab your chair or talk to your companion instead of you. A short, friendly line — 'I've got it, thanks' — handles most situations. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
When it's more than adjusting
If low mood lasts more than a couple of weeks, or you've stopped doing things you enjoy, tell your doctor. Depression after a change in mobility is common and treatable.
This guide is general information, not medical advice. Talk with your doctor, physical therapist or occupational therapist about what's right for you.